Recently, I was watching about the universal anxiety about ‘being good enough’, and it reminded me of something Oprah said. In discussing all the people she’s interviewed over the years, without exception each one had asked her, ‘was that ok’? ‘or checked in to see ‘how did I do’? Even people that many hold up as idols, such as Beyoncé, said, ‘did I do ok’?
Why is it, I pondered, that we all seem to ask are we
doing ok, are we enough? Even those that seem to ‘have it all’. One powerful
reason is that we are social animals and without feedback we would literally
die. Just like babies need human touch and connection to thrive, we too need
verbal, emotional and physical feedback to know and truly feel connected to our
tribe. This is evidence that it’s not the ‘things’, cars, money, houses,
yachts, that make us feel ‘enough’, it’s the quality of our connections. But before
we can be authentically validated by others and affirm their worth in turn, we
need to tune into our internal compass and know that we are indeed more than
enough.
In sales and business that the energy of ‘feeling and being enough’ needs to be
continuously harnessed within ourselves first before we can positively
influence others. It’s a bit like a bank account, the more we invest into our
feelings of worth and being enough, the more interest (good feelings) we are
connected to. Those then take us into the world and help us connect with our
tribe. In a healthy and successful business,
your tribe encompasses not only you and your colleagues but everyone you do
business with, including potential clients and customers. Knowing your worth positively
affects all your interactions.
Next time you are preparing for a sales meeting; do these three things and
notice the improvement in your results.
- Think of at least one time when you felt fantastic, full of energy, happy, at peace, and alive.
- Connect to those feelings and let them move throughout your body, let it be as it is. It might feel like a color, a shape or sensation; whatever it is feel it fully.
- As you are in this feeling, say to yourself out loud, “I am enough”. Repeat, “I am enough”, continue repeating until you feel it in your body. If you need to, go to the mirror and look at yourself and repeat “I am enough”.